spirals
Podcast with Tonje Ettesvoll
Pedophile or Molester?
Tonje and her brother Frode kick off part 2 with a profound discussion about pedophiles and the possibility of rehabilitation.
After the episode you can hear the song Stole my dreams, a demo Tonje made over 25 years ago.
Hosted on Acast.
neverending story?
Join Tonje and her brother Frode for a raw and honest look at their past. Part 2 is on the way, where they keep exploring.
After the episode you can hear the song 12 Days from Tonje’s newly released album with Unicorn.
Hosted on Acast.
Am I safe?
Join us as we explore the profound impact of feeling safe within the family dynamic. After the episode you can hear the song Original Sin from Tonjes newly released album with Unicorn.
Hosted on Acast.
hurt people, hurt people
Hurt people, hurt people.
When we are in a position to heal, can we break the cycle of intergenerational trauma?
Hosted on Acast. See for more information.
I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way to heal-
I only think that you can heal
-tonje
Tonje was abused as a child and through her healing journey she wonders if a cycle of intergenerational trauma can transform into a spiral.
Realizing she is an emotionally immature adult, she is "traumaing" every time she feels unsafe. How does this affect her daughter? Can we help the healing process children of traumatized parents have to endure by talking about it early?
Can we avoid hurting others when we have not started our own healing journey?
If we talk to the people closest to us, maybe we can turn the cycle into a spiral.
Unavoidably, some of our trauma will bleed onto others - but by sharing how they are not to blame maybe their own healing can start, preventing a new cycle of pain and confusion.
How do you have
a conversation about trauma?
My journey unfolded through the tapestry of music, a gift bestowed upon me, a form of healing I found with Unicorn
When I turned 27, I bravely ventured into therapy, embracing various forms — psychotherapy, sex therapy, psychomotor physiotherapy, EQ therapy, and yoga. Yet, the linchpin in this transformative journey remains the authentic connection with my therapists, unlocking the door to self-acceptance.
Know better, do better
Trauma, a silent tsunami, bears not only a personal weight but also an economic toll on survivors and society. Understanding is the compass guiding us through the tumultuous waters. To forge preventive measures, we must first comprehend what we aim to prevent. My mission is to explore every avenue, not just for personal healing but also to aid others in finding a brighter life post-trauma and to staunchly pursue avenues to prevent future traumas.
Thinking back to my troubled youth, early intervention could have made a difference. If someone talked about childhood abuse at school, I might have sought help sooner. The same goes for my father who abused me—early support at school might have interrupted the cycle of pain.
The poignant question lingers: When do I assume responsibility for the vicious cycle of pain? At 18? As a parent myself? Is it society's duty to intervene? The resounding truth is that help can only be extended when one recognizes the need and bravely seeks it. Hence, the quest is not just for personal redemption but also a collective one — a journey toward societal understanding and compassionate support.
My journey to mental and physical well-being is tough but beautiful. I dream of a world where every child has someone to talk to. Prevention possibilities are vast, reaching both the hurt and those who may hurt others, recognizing their equal importance.